Dear Narcissus Boy,

People are interesting creatures. I think that we are naturally more n*sync with some people and not so much with others. I think I tend to be drawn to people that are more easy going, honest, have a good sense of humor and are reciprocal in their relationships. Those that are strangers to reciprocity are likely those from which I will detach.

Sometimes when we detach from these strangers of reciprocity, they freak out. These types seem to tend to end up being defensive and incapable of copping responsibility for their actions. And they also seem to think your world must revolve around them. When in fact, it does not and there is literally no possible way for you to care less, because frankly you just don’t care.

Sometimes we may be the ones that have caused the problem. We may be on the receiving end of being “Kipped” out (that is my own kind of FRIENDS reference). Instead of throwing an immature temper tantrum, going on the defense, etc. It may behoove us to look within and try to determine what we may have done or said to cause offense/ill feelings, regardless of whether or not that was our intent. A mature, rational adult would try to be objective, would they not? If you’ve spent most of a friendship expecting things and not really giving much in return (aka a stranger to reciprocity)… then you might have a fundamental problem with interpersonal relationships. Just saying.

And sometimes we just have to tell ourselves, c’est la vie. If you’ve claimed to have moved on with your life… stop dwelling on the person from the past that only spares a thought (or blog) for you when you’ve stirred the pot. In fact, you not only stir the pot, but you pull it out of the dusty cupboard, put it on the stove and wait for it to heat up so you can stir your brew. Because after the novelty of the stirriness has passed, you will again be forgotten in the abyss of a past that served its purpose, but in retrospect was just a waste.